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Do you ever feel down, indifferent or just can’t be bothered and need a boost? Would you like to feel energized, totally happy and motivated instead?
Do you ever get nervous before giving a presentation or talking in front of a group of people, even friends? How good would it be if you could feel centered, owerful, energized and totally confident instead?
Or perhaps there are times when you lack motivation to get things done, have no get up and go and lack confidence. Would it be useful if you could feel fired up and generally great so you can get on with what you need to do?
Or maybe you sometimes find it difficult to switch off and relax and enjoy your down time. How good would it be if you could feel calm, relaxed and happy and go with the flow instead?
In fact how good would it be in general if at any time you could instantaneously access a bunch of positive feelings all at the same time that would allow you to feel significantly different in yourself in a really great way– just imagine how that would make a difference to you!
Last time we shared with you how to do a basic anchor using just 4 steps - (RACE – Recall, Anchor, Change and Evoke) - so you could feel positive and resourceful at anytime just by accessing a specific feeling, or state as we call it. I hope you have been enjoying the benefits.
Well today I would like to share with you a super charged anchoring technique that can really help you to feel fantastic and empowered, so you can take the action you need to and to get results.
It is called resource anchoring and again it is very simple and effective.
This technique allows you to access a bunch of positive feelings at the same time so you feel really good and positive at anytime. It’s like an emotional pick me up to get you back on track.
You can have a generic resource anchor that helps you feel generally positive and good or ones that are more contextually based e.g. to help you relax at the end of the day or to be confident when giving a presentation. The choice is yours depending on what you want to use it for.
The steps are easy and are as follows:
Step 1 – Design your Resource Anchor
Pick a minimum of 5 positive feelings (states), that you would like to be able to access, one of them should be your equivalent of fell down laughing, as this is a really great positive feeling and works really well in an anchor.
E.g . for a Generic Resource Anchor
Anchor each feeling/state on the SAME knuckle using the process we went through last time (RACE):
Here’s a reminder using fell down laughing:
1. Recall a past vivid experience
Can you remember a time when you totally fell down laughing. Remember a specific time and as you remember that time now imagine in your mind floating
down into your body and see what you saw, hear what you heard and really feel the feelings of totally falling down laughing
2. Anchor the state
Remember as soon as you can feel that feeling rising inside you take the index finger of your writing hand and apply some pressure to one of your knuckles on your other hand, make your other hand in to a fist, it makes it easier. Take your finger off your knuckle when you can feel the feeling start to lessen or you have held your finger on for upto 5 -15 seconds whilst you felt the feeling rise and peak inside you.
3. Change your state
Then have a look around the room, check your watch, look at the weather, smell the popcorn - anything to make sure you get out of that feeling (we call this a break state) because now we are going anchor the next feeling on the SAME knuckle, in the SAME place.
Repeat Step 2 in full for each of the following, breaking state in between each state – Smell the popcorn!
Make sure you have broken state, (smell the popcorn!), after the last anchor and now we are going to test what you have anchored and whether it is a balanced combination for you and that it is going to do the job you need it to do!
Put your finger back on your knuckle with the same amount of pressure you used before and ask ‘How do I feel?’ You should be feeling generally really good and positive! You may or may not be able to specifically feel the individual states you anchored.
Now check if your resource anchor feels balanced? We want to make sure nothing is too dominant in the ‘blend’ of your resource anchor. You don’t want to fall down laughing every time you use your anchor – not very resourceful!
If anything is too dominant or your resource anchor hasn’t got enough power or oomph to do the job you need it to just anchor more feelings (states) on the SAME knuckle until the anchor is balanced and it does do the job you want it to do! Sometimes you might need to add more feelings that have more energy or power to them or are more calm and relaxed or centred so it works the way you need it to. You will know when it feels just right for you!
Now enjoy the results! You can fire off/use your resource anchor whenever you need to.
Here are some other resource anchor suggestions that you may find useful:
Presenting Resource Anchor
Anchoring is just one of the powerful and effective techniques provided by NLP. We hope you found this supercharged version useful and if you wish to know more about this technique and how it or any other NLP technique can help you please contact us.
Do you ever find that the outcomes or goals you set yourself always look out of reach or that you never quite get what you want?
Perhaps you know what you DON’T want but you don’t know what you DO want?
Maybe sometimes you feel lost and disconnected with your goals and lack the motivation to go make them happen?
Well let me tell you that part of the reason for that could be that you are not being specific enough to start with aboutwhat you really want and you are not structuring your goals in the right way.
Many people are very vague about what they want so it makes it very challenging for you and your mind to go makeit happen.
For example: I want more money or a more satisfying job or I want to be more happy.
Just looking at ‘I want more money’. What does that really mean? It is very vague and ambiguous. 5p is more money - would you be happy with that? Comparatives just don’t get you a great result in outcome/goal setting.
Outcomes and goals need to be really specific.
E.G. I work as a full time NLP coach in my own successful coaching company in the UK earning a minimum personalincome of £100k net per annum.
Stated in the positive
People often become very fixed on what they don’t want e.g. I don’t want to be poor, I don’t want to be fat, I don’twant to be miserable and they don’t put enough focus on what they do want specifically. And of course if your attentionis focused on what you don’t want that is exactly what you usually end up getting!
Outcomes and goals need to be stated in the positive.
So instead of I don’t want to be poor you could have: I am earning a minimum personal income of £100k net per annum.
Here are 9 sets of questions to ask yourself that will help you get more specific about an outcome or a goal. These workbrilliantly to help you structure your desired outcome in a positive form that will leave you feeling that it is really achievable and as a result boosts your motivation to go and get it! And that is seriously going to increase your chances of achieving that outcome or goal.
Pick an outcome or goal that you want for yourself and ask yourself each of the following questions in order (the first line of each is just to show the focus of the question):
1. Stated in the positive.“What specifically do you want?” (Be as detailed and as specific as you can be and make sure you state it in the positive)
2. Specify present situation.“Where are you now? (In relation to getting that outcome.)
3. Specify outcome.“What will you see, hear, feel, etc., when you have it?” (This will really start to bring your outcome to life)
4. Specify evidence procedure.“How will you know when you have it?”
5. Is it congruently desirable?“What will this outcome get for you or allow you to do?”
6. Is it self-initiated and self-maintained?“Is it only for you?”
7. Is it appropriately contextualized?“Where, when, how, and with whom do you want it?”
8. What resources are needed?“What do you have now, and what do you need to get your outcome?”
If you were specific enough in the detail and it is something you really want then your outcome should be feelingmore achievable right now.
If it doesn’t feel more achievable maybe you were not specific enough or it isn’t something you really want. If it is something you want go back now and re do the questions and make sure you are even more specific and detailed in your answers. Make sure you state the outcome in the positive, avoid stating what you don’t want.
There is a possibility if it doesn’t feel more achievable at the end, and it is something you want, that you already hada really good level of specificity – so well done, enjoy getting your outcome!
So now you should be feeling more positive and motivated about your outcome or goal. So remember to take action and focus on what you want to make it happen. Just thinking about it is not
What you have just been through are formally known as the Keys to An Achievable Outcome, and they form a very important part of any work we do in NLP.
We hope you have enjoyed learning about them and enjoy the benefits from using them. You can use for yourself,with your partner and in business with your team. Enjoy the results.
If you have any questions or would like to know more about this topic and what NLP can do for you please contactus. We are here to help.