Perhaps you know what you DON’T want but you don’t know what you DO want?
Maybe sometimes you feel lost and disconnected with your goals and lack the motivation to go make them happen?
Well let me tell you that part of the reason for that could be that you are not being specific enough to start with aboutwhat you really want and you are not structuring your goals in the right way.
Many people are very vague about what they want so it makes it very challenging for you and your mind to go makeit happen.
For example: I want more money or a more satisfying job or I want to be more happy.
Just looking at ‘I want more money’. What does that really mean? It is very vague and ambiguous. 5p is more money - would you be happy with that? Comparatives just don’t get you a great result in outcome/goal setting.
Outcomes and goals need to be really specific.
E.G. I work as a full time NLP coach in my own successful coaching company in the UK earning a minimum personalincome of £100k net per annum.
Stated in the positive
People often become very fixed on what they don’t want e.g. I don’t want to be poor, I don’t want to be fat, I don’twant to be miserable and they don’t put enough focus on what they do want specifically. And of course if your attentionis focused on what you don’t want that is exactly what you usually end up getting!
Outcomes and goals need to be stated in the positive.
So instead of I don’t want to be poor you could have: I am earning a minimum personal income of £100k net per annum.
Here are 9 sets of questions to ask yourself that will help you get more specific about an outcome or a goal. These workbrilliantly to help you structure your desired outcome in a positive form that will leave you feeling that it is really achievable and as a result boosts your motivation to go and get it! And that is seriously going to increase your chances of achieving that outcome or goal.
Pick an outcome or goal that you want for yourself and ask yourself each of the following questions in order (the first line of each is just to show the focus of the question):
1. Stated in the positive.“What specifically do you want?” (Be as detailed and as specific as you can be and make sure you state it in the positive)
2. Specify present situation.“Where are you now? (In relation to getting that outcome.)
3. Specify outcome.“What will you see, hear, feel, etc., when you have it?” (This will really start to bring your outcome to life)
4. Specify evidence procedure.“How will you know when you have it?”
5. Is it congruently desirable?“What will this outcome get for you or allow you to do?”
6. Is it self-initiated and self-maintained?“Is it only for you?”
7. Is it appropriately contextualized?“Where, when, how, and with whom do you want it?”
8. What resources are needed?“What do you have now, and what do you need to get your outcome?”
- “Have you ever had or done this before?”
- “Do you know anyone who has?”
- “Can you act as if you have it?”
- “For what purpose do you want this?”
- “What will you gain or lose if you have it?”
- What will happen if you get it?
- What won’t happen if you get it?
- What will happen if you don’t get it?
- What won’t happen if you don’t get it?
If you were specific enough in the detail and it is something you really want then your outcome should be feelingmore achievable right now.
If it doesn’t feel more achievable maybe you were not specific enough or it isn’t something you really want. If it is something you want go back now and re do the questions and make sure you are even more specific and detailed in your answers. Make sure you state the outcome in the positive, avoid stating what you don’t want.
There is a possibility if it doesn’t feel more achievable at the end, and it is something you want, that you already hada really good level of specificity – so well done, enjoy getting your outcome!
So now you should be feeling more positive and motivated about your outcome or goal. So remember to take action and focus on what you want to make it happen. Just thinking about it is not
What you have just been through are formally known as the Keys to An Achievable Outcome, and they form a very important part of any work we do in NLP.
We hope you have enjoyed learning about them and enjoy the benefits from using them. You can use for yourself,with your partner and in business with your team. Enjoy the results.
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